Sometimes we all need strength to persevere.  Some days are harder than others. Some moments are like ice. Sometimes we need to have a plan to move forward.  This is mine.

That feeling—of being stuck in place while time barrels forward like a freight train—is terrifying. The quiet becomes a roar. Your heart races while your body doesn’t move. It feels like you’re standing on a shore, watching a storm roll in, knowing you can’t hold back the waves.

But you’re not alone in this.

When fear takes over, survival doesn’t look like bravery. It looks like breathing, getting out of bed, putting one foot in front of the other, even if you don’t know where you’re going yet.

Here’s a small roadmap—just enough to get through one moment, then the next:

1. Name It

Say out loud (or write it down):
“I’m afraid of ____. I feel like ____.”
Giving fear a name takes away some of its power. It makes it something you are experiencing—not something that is you.

2. Shrink the Future

When the future feels unbearable, don’t try to live it all at once.
Try living just the next five minutes.
Then the next hour.
You’ll be surprised how far that can carry you.

3. Choose One Thing You Can Control

Maybe it’s taking a walk.
Making a cup of coffee.
Writing a message to someone you trust.
Control just one thing. That can be enough to anchor you today.

4. Let Others Be Your Strength

Even if you feel like a burden—you’re not.
Let someone carry a bit of this with you.
You don’t have to have the right words. Just say:

“I’m not okay. Can you just sit with me in this for a moment?”

5. Grace Over Guilt

If all you did today was survive—that counts.
You don’t have to fix everything. Not today. Maybe not even tomorrow.
You just have to keep showing up. You already are.

You asked how you can survive it.
You survive it the same way you’ve survived every hard thing before:
With a cracked heart and the quiet strength you don’t even realize you have.

And when you’re ready, we can talk about how to walk forward—not fast, just real.

I’m here for that walk whenever you are.